WHAT MAKES GOOD SEX GOOD?

A BELLE EPOCH GUIDE BOOK TO THE PARIS BROTHELS CIRCA 1880

On a time if my partner, (or whomever I was having sex with at the time), did not immediately comment that our sex-session had been amazing I’d have concluded they did not enjoy the sex. I had every aim to please and since back then I was as they say, “Young, Dumb and full of... well… you know” I’d immediately re-start my engine and get back to the good work of pleasing my partner(s)!

GROTTO ENTRANCE TO A VICTORIAN BROTHEL/GENTLEMAN'S CLUB

A lot has transpired since those days of inexorable sexual robustness. Back then I’d imagined that I had a reputation to uphold. Today the erotic landscape is stratified much differently. There is a psychological, spiritual and physical buy-in, a “Trilogy” if you will not unlike for example, Experian, Equfax and TransUnion, the three credit bureaus whose combined/averages scores tell us what our credit-worthiness is. The sexual trilogy works the same way telling us what our sexual happiness is, it is an averaged-score of the psychological, spiritual and physical elements of sex which interface to produce a final sex-rating. Do you know what your sex rating is?

GRAND PARLOUR OF A VICTORIAN BROTHEL/GENTLEMEN'S CLUB

The psychological element of sex is the most fundamental and instinctual process. It governs whether we are initially sexually attracted to a person. It acts as a sensory device that processes inputs such as appearance, olfaction, touch sound and taste. 

The spiritual element of sex varies greatly because it requires an interpersonal connection that goes far beyond the physical and emotional, it is an intangible dynamic that ignites a unmistakably powerful fire which continues to burn even after sex. The spiritual sexual fire burns more intensely with each successive sexual encounter. 

The physical element of sex is the practical and utilitarian application of sexual styles and rituals and arsenals within a dynamic motivated and orchestrated directly from the psychological and spiritual elements of sex. 

So how does this academic efflorescence explain in simple terms what good sex consists of? Good sex is a balance of the sexual-trilogy and this means simply that it takes positive sexual chemistry to create good sex! Nothing could be simpler to understand. Theoretically then the more we allow ourselves to cultivate a depth of power in the regions of psychological, spiritual and physical expression the better and richer our sex will be.

Being a pragmatic man I believe in the power of practical experimentation. This means in order to really understand the sex-trilogy theory you have to applying it while having sex. Sex should never become a clinical thing. Human sexuality is all about doing the damned thing, having a good time, taking pleasurable notes then extrapolating the data in order to surmise what works to create a better, healthier more fulfilling sexual experience. The wonderful thing about sex is you’ve simply got to have more sex in order to get it right!

First of all there is no perfect score. Sex cannot be rated really as it is such a subjective phenomenon. It is difficult even to compare one sexual encounter to the next because the variables encompassing them are bound to be so vastly different. Learn to accept sex for what it is and walk away from it with the experience you get knowing that you put your best effort into making it as enjoyable as possible. My best advice for those instances when sex is not enjoyable is simply to stop, get dressed and walk away! you do not have to explore all three elements if you find a happy medium with one or two of them. Don’t be afraid to add an element you may find that it really does play a big part in your sexual fulfillment. I recommend to just be honest about what you like sexually and experiment! Experiment! Experiment!

Borrowing a famous line from the vintage espionage TV series Mission Impossible:

“YOUR MISSION SHOULD YOU CHOOSE TO ACCEPT IT IS TO HAVE AMAZING SEX AS SOON AS POSSIBLE DISCUSSING THE SEXUAL TRILOGY WITH YOUR PARTNERYOUR PRIOR TO PLAY THEN DILIGENTLY DOCUMENTING THE RESULTS OF THE EXPERIMENT TOGETHER DURING OR AFTER EACH SESSION. THIS TAPE WILL SELF-DESTRUCT IN 5 SECONDS!”.

AN UPSCALE VICTORIAN BROTHEL BOUDOIR

Gentlemen, your mission has been assigned. Remember that only you can define what makes good sex but in order to be successful you should experiment with the sexual trilogy if only to add variety to your sex life. Good luck and many happy sessions!

Written By: Bigdaddy Blues

A LATE-VICTORIAN BROTHEL